Forever Single

Sue came to see me after attending my seminar the prior week. "It was fascinating and you brought up lots of past life stories, but I'm not sure that my issue has to do with the past. It's defiantly has to do with the future. I'm afraid I'll never get married" she said sadly. She was a 26 years old high school teacher, attractive and good natured. I asked her to tell me about her relationship with men. "Well, we date for a while, I like them and they like me, but after a couple of months, somehow the relationship fades out. I feel I can't establish a deeper emotional connection than just dating. Then another man comes along and it starts all over again." She elaborated patiently.

I asked her to take a few deep breaths to her belly, relax her body, and go down a flight of stairs. At the bottom of the stairs, behind the closed door, awaits her former life that will shed some light on her current singlehood.

"This is so pretty! Everybody is dressed up. Lace and fancy hats! It's a church!" she said excitedly. "What year is it and which country?" I interrupted. "England, 1856" she replied shortly. "Hey, I'm getting married!" she continued. "Congratulations! Who is the groom?" I asked curiously. "John. He's tall and blonde. He's 28 and I'm 26. Our parents matched us up" she explained. "Do you like him? Does he treat you right?" I inquired. "He's all right. He doesn't bit me or anything" she answered quietly. "OK" I said, feeling that being forced to marry by her parents isn't traumatic enough to cause her current singlehood. "Lest go to another scene in this English life of yours. What do you see?" She took a deep breath. "I'm getting into the bedroom, and I see John in bed with another woman" she paused, as if letting it all sink in.  "What do you do?" I encouraged her to continue. "I leave the room" she replied shortly. "Don't you feel like crying, yelling at him, hitting him?" I tried to get some emotional response out of her. "No. I just leave the room" she replied. I knew she was totally shocked, so she shut off her emotions. "What does John do?" I kept asking. "He chases me, trying to smooth he situation, apologizing" she said sadly, reflecting her deep emotional trauma. "Do you accept his apology?" I continue after a long pause. "Yes" she replied. "I move on". It was my turn. "In reference to the time of your wedding, where are we on the time line?" I inquired, thinking to myself: many men cheat, the years go by; the passion fades away, the wife is not as attractive... Her answer took me by surprise:"2 weeks BEFORE our wedding" she said, her eyes beaming with tears. There was a long silence. We were both shocked. …"And you married him anyways?" I asked. "Yes" she replied totally disconnected from the situation. "What conclusions did you draw to you present life?" I asked her. "You can't trust men. They cheat." She answered right away.

After explaining that she can release this old notion, we healed the former life, forgave john (who is her current date, Greg) and cleared the emotional trauma. "Wow" she said as she came back, "Who would have believed that my fear of marriage origins from an English life 150 years ago!"

Sue called me about 7 months later. "Since that day I had the session with you, my whole perspective changed. As If I could see Greg in a totally different light. I'm so happy with him. We intend to get married next fall!  I'll invite you to celebrate with us!" She said excitedly.

Thank you very much, Sue, wishing you all the best, in this life and the next ones ...