In order for us to achieve peace and harmony, we have to balance our traits. A trait can be either balanced, excessive or in lack. Feeling angry, sad, upset or hurt, Is an indication of an underlined unbalanced trait. I would demonstrate this by the story of Lisa, a young artist who came to see me.

"I find it extremely hard to connect and bond with people" she told me. She is 26 years old, still single and has no friends. She is highly verbal, good looking and rather depressed. "I feel all alone in the world, as if there's no point living. A big dark cloud is hanging over my head." she said quietly. We decided to go to the source of her loneliness. I asked her to lie down and inhale a relaxing white light. Then I guided her to go down a flight of stairs and open a door and see her former life. "I'm in the forest, by myself, about 6 years old girl." What are you doing?" I asked: "Looking for food" she replied. "Where are your parents?" I got curious. "None" She quickly replied. "What are you wearing?" I kept inquiring leaving the parents alone for the meanwhile. "Some kind of leather outfit. I'm bare foot." Lisa continued. "Can you tell me what year is it and what country?" I asked. "Somewhere in Europe, a long time ago" was her answer. "O.K. lets take a deep breath, and go back in time, so we can find out, how come you were left alone in the forest, all by yourself." I said softly. She took a healthy breath, letting it all come up. "Well, we're in a big cave, me and the whole tribe. Kids run around, there's a bonfire in the middle, and the women are cooking food. They also drum and dance. Some kind of a celebration." She told excitedly. "Wow, the fire! Everything is on fire! The fur rugs, awful smoke! There's fire everywhere! I'm fleeing out of the cave, to the woods. When the sun sets I find a bush to sleep in. The next day I go back to the cave. Everything is burnt. There's no one in the forest either. I'm all by myself!" She sobbed. "I go back inside and cry. I feel abandoned, miserable, a terrifying loneliness". She kept crying. "Let's take a deep calming breath, remember, it's only an old movie, a past life" I soothed her. She got a hold on herself and continued. "I live by myself in the forest, bonding with the animals, and at the age of 18, I quit. Pneumonia."

I asked her what conclusion she drew from her past life into the current life.
"Well, I'm very curious with people, I'm afraid I might lose them again." She replied. I asked her which traits she needs to develop to change this. "Trust life, open my heart and be more optimistic" she summarized.
Lisa's story has an interesting twist. At first glance, loneliness seems to be the issue. However, loneliness is a result, not a trait. If we examine deeper we'll find out that the reason for her loneliness is mistrust and pessimism. With such attitude, no wonder Lisa can't connect with people, and always sees the worst scenario. She also mentioned that in other areas of her life she's "rather pessimistic" and "doesn't give a chance".
By clearing the trauma from her past life, implementing an optimistic outlook on life, and understanding that everything happens for her highest good, Lisa chose to set herself free of her own loneliness.